A Letter to My Future Wife
For the day she is no longer hypothetical.
A letter to your future wife is partly a letter to her and mostly a letter to the version of you who has not met her yet. You will not remember that guy once she is around. The whole point of writing it down is so she can meet him.
We hold it sealed and deliver on the date you choose — the wedding morning, your first anniversary, any date up to two years out.
Three Versions of the Letter
Pick the one that fits where you are
Before You Have Met Her
The single-life letter
“I do not know your name yet. I know the apartment is quiet, the dishes are mine, and somewhere out there is a version of my life that includes you in it. I am writing this so you can meet the guy who was waiting.”
While You Are Engaged
The morning-of letter
“You are asleep next to me right now. The wedding is Saturday. I want to remember exactly this — the rain, the dog, the way your hand is on my chest. So you can have me here forever, even when neither of us looks like this anymore.”
After You Are Married
The retroactive letter
“This is the letter I wish I had written before I met you. By the time you open it, it has been a year, two, whatever — and you can hold the proof that I would have said yes again.”
When Should It Arrive?
Pick the day worth a real letter
The Wedding Morning
Mailed to your venue or hotel the morning of. Set delivery anywhere from 1 month to 2 years out.
First Anniversary
Paper anniversary, on purpose. A letter from before-her, arriving when the honeymoon is officially over.
Two Years In
The point at which ordinary life has fully arrived. Exactly when a letter from your braver self is most useful.
Simple Pricing
One payment. No subscription.
Digital or handwritten — both arrive sealed on the date you choose.
Digital Future Letter
$9
Type it online. We print on cream stationery, seal with wax, mail on your date.
Mail-in Handwritten
$19
You write it by hand and mail it to us. We store it sealed and mail it on your date.
Frequently Asked
For the ones doing this for the first time
I have not met her yet. Is it weird to write a letter to a person who does not exist?
A little. Lean in. The letter is not really for predicting her — it is for capturing who you are right now, before she rewrites you. The version of you who exists before the wedding does not exist after it. The whole point is so she can meet him.
When should I write it?
Whenever you can sit still long enough. Single and noticing it, dating someone serious, freshly engaged, the night before the wedding — every stage is a different letter. Couples who write before the wedding often exchange theirs on the morning of. Married guys sometimes write the letter they wished they had written first, and read it on an anniversary.
What do I actually say?
Start with where you are. The apartment, the job, the friends, the noise in your head, what you are afraid of about marriage, what you are hoping for. Then say what you want to remember about being a single man — there are things you only see clearly from this side of it.
Can I write it to a woman I am already married to?
Of course. Plenty of people do. Write the letter you wish you had handed her on day one, set it for your next anniversary, and let her open it that morning. It will hit her harder than any card.
Do you read the letters?
Never. Handwritten letters stay sealed from the moment they arrive at our PO box. Digital letters are encrypted until the morning we print and mail them. The only person who reads the letter is the one you addressed it to.
Write the one you will be glad you wrote
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