A Letter to My Future Husband
For the day he is no longer hypothetical.
A letter to your future husband is partly a letter to him and mostly a letter to the version of you who has not met him yet. You will not remember this version of yourself once you have. The whole point of writing it down is so he can meet her.
We hold it sealed and deliver on the date you choose — your wedding day, your first anniversary, any moment up to two years out.
Three Versions of the Letter
Pick the one that fits where you are
Before You Have Met Him
The single-life letter
“The apartment is loud, the bed is mine, and I am terrified you will not show up. I am writing this anyway because if you do, I want you to know what it felt like to wait.”
While You Are Engaged
The morning-of letter
“You handed me coffee this morning and your hair was still wrong from sleep. I am writing this so I can hand it back to you, sealed, on a Tuesday when nothing is happening.”
After You Are Married
The retroactive letter
“Here is the letter I wish I had written before I knew you. By the time you read this it will be a year, two, forever — and you can hold the proof that I would have said yes again.”
When Should It Arrive?
Pick the day worth a real letter
The Wedding Morning
Hand-delivered (we mail it to your venue or hotel) the morning of. Set delivery anywhere from 1 month to 2 years out.
First Anniversary
Paper anniversary, on purpose. A letter from before-him, arriving when the honeymoon glow has settled.
Two Years In
The point at which ordinary life has fully arrived. The exact moment a letter from your braver self is most useful.
Simple Pricing
One payment. No subscription.
Digital or handwritten — both arrive sealed on the date you choose.
Digital Future Letter
$9
Type it online. We print on cream stationery, seal with wax, mail on your date.
Mail-in Handwritten
$19
You write it by hand and mail it to us. We store it sealed and mail it on your date.
Frequently Asked
For the ones doing this for the first time
I have not met him yet. Is it weird to write a letter to a person who does not exist?
A little. Lean in. The point of this letter is not to predict who he will be — the point is to capture who you are right now, before the relationship rewrites you. Future you will read it on your wedding day (or your first anniversary) and find a version of yourself she half-remembers. That version is the gift.
When should I write it?
Whenever you can sit still long enough. Single and curious, dating someone serious, freshly engaged, the night before the wedding — every stage gives you something different to say. Engaged couples often write one each and exchange them on the morning of the wedding. Married couples sometimes write the letter they wished they had written before, and read it on an anniversary.
What do I actually say?
Start with where you are right now. The apartment, the job, the loneliness or the not-loneliness, what you are afraid of, what you are hoping for, what you secretly suspect about love. Then say what you want to remember about being unmarried — there are things you only see clearly from this side of the wedding.
Can I write it to a man I am already married to?
Of course. People do, all the time. Write the letter you wish you had handed him on day one, set it for your next anniversary, and let him open it that morning. It will hit differently than a card.
Do you have to read it?
We never read it. Handwritten letters stay sealed from the moment they arrive at our PO box. Digital letters are encrypted until the morning we print and mail them. The only person who reads the letter is the person you addressed it to.
Write the one you will be glad you wrote
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